"There is no place for punishment in Positive Discipline. Why? Hundreds of research projects have demonstrated that punishment is NOT the most effective way to teach positive outcomes. Instead it hurts, it makes others feel bad, and it uses fear as a motivator. Then why would so many parents use punitive or abusive methods? Simple. They believe it works and that they are “doing something” instead of allowing their children to “get away with” misbehaviour. Punishment provides release for their anger and frustration too. Others use punishment because they are conditioned from past experiences and lack of knowledge and skills to use different methods. They believe that a spanking or grounding or taking away privileges is the best way for children to learn. They are convinced children must suffer to learn.
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AuthorGinny Johnstone is a certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator, consultant and Heal Your Life coach specialising in teaching conscious parenting ideas and self-awareness tools to parents and teachers in South Africa. Archives
May 2016
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